Darling, I suffer

Thich Nhat' Hanh’s Mantras for Relationships in conversation with Oprah

Darling, I’m here for you

When you love someone, the best thing you can offer someone is your presence. How can you love someone if you are not there?

Darling, I know you are there, and darling, I am so happy that you are there.

Because you are fully there, you recognize the presence of your beloved as something very precious. You embrace your beloved with mindfulness. And he or she will bloom like a flower. To be loved means to be recognized as existing.

Darling, I know you’re suffering, and that is why I am here for you.

Before you do something to help, your presence already can bring some relief.

Darling, I suffer. I am trying my best to practice. Please help me.

And the fourth mantra is a little bit more difficult. It is when you suffer and you believe that your suffering has been caused by your beloved…

The mantra is to overcome that: "Darling, I suffer. I am trying my best to practice. Please help me."
You go to him, you go to her, and practice that. And if you can bring yourself to say that mantra, you suffer less right away. Because you do not have that obstacle standing between you and the other person…

And when I have been trying my best to look deeply, to see whether this suffering comes from my wrong perception and I might be able to transform it, but in this case I cannot transform it, you should help me, darling. You should tell me why you have done such a thing to me, said such a thing to me."

In that way, you have expressed your trust, your confidence. You don't want to punish anymore. And that is why you suffer less right away.

Source: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/oprah-talks-to-thich-nhat-hanh/7